Saturday, July 5, 2008

Bush and Moses - Humor

At a function one day, President Bush sees a man in the corner with flowing white beard and long white hair, holding a staff in one hand and a stone tablet in another. Bush approaches him and asked if he was Moses.

The man kept looking up at the ceiling and ignored Bush. Bush asked him several times and finally tugged Moses sleeve, and said,

"I am President Bush, I would like to talk to you, Moses."

Moses replied while still looking at the ceiling," No!"

"The last time I talked to a Bush, I remained 40 years in the desert!"

Friday, July 4, 2008

Self-esteem, thought provoking one liners

If you think nobody cares if you are alive, try missing some credit card payments.

People will accept your idea much more readily if you tell them Albert Einstein thought of it first.

Success comes in cans not in can'ts!

Happiness is not how much you have but how much you enjoy!

Obstacles are what you see, when you take your eyes of the goal.

You will not know where you are going if you are always looking back.

Why not turn your stumbling blocks to Stepping Stones!

It does not matter to others how much you know as how much you care (love).

You can give without loving but you can't Love without Giving.

The Love we give is the only Love we will Keep.
Agapelife

Thursday, July 3, 2008

Build up your Self-Esteem Quotes

"You yourself, as much as anybody else in the entire universe, deserve love and affection." Buddha

Put all excuses aside and remember this, "You are capable". Zig Zigler

"You cannot be lonely, if you like the person you are alone with." Wayne Dyer

"Every new adjustment is a crisis in Self-esteem". Eric Hoffer

Whether you think you can or whether you think you can't - You are right. Henry Ford

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent". Eleanor Roosevelt

" Love is not yet perfect for one who is afraid...Perfect love cast out all fear.. we, for our part, love because God first loved us." 1Jn4

Agapelife

If you have any self-esteem quotes to contribute, please leave it in comments.

Wednesday, July 2, 2008

Self-Esteem that keeps you healthy,wealthy and wise

Last week we started the Self-Esteem Series with all you want to know about Self-Esteem. As we do this final post, it seems that only a small portion of one of the higher step in Maslow's hierarchy of Needs has been covered. The significance of a healthy self-esteem is that it affects all areas of our lives, especially our reactions to situations and events.

Too much of self-esteem is bordering on narcissism whereas low self-esteem leads to mental, physical and emotional illnesses. So the key is to find the right balance. We spoke of Causes of low self-esteem. Studies show that it begins in the womb.

The reinforcements or lack thereof in childhood further contributes to self-esteem growth or erosion. Yet, we have in our power to remove obstacles to healthy self-esteem, through knowledge, support, affirmations,self-hypnosis. There are many tests to gauge your Self-Esteem online - Two simple ones, are on DiscoveryHealth and the National Association of Self-Esteem website..

On Thursday, we saw the effects of poor self-esteem. Comments received from readers have expressed the fluctuations of the level of your Self-esteem according to situations and surroundings.
Then, last Friday, we elaborated on how to build, boost or maintain a healthy self-esteem.

Healthy Self-Esteem is pertinent in a three-fold way.
1.It is vital for a wholesome health.
2. It causes optimum growth potential.
3. It leads to a joyful, peaceful and fulfilled life and self-actualization.
So we should do our part to build ours and our children's and our neighbour's self-esteem.
Agapelife
References
www.DiscoveryHealth.queendom.com/self-esteem
www.self-esteem-nase.org
Maslow, A. Motivation and Personality
Bohorquez, E. Enhancing self-esteem - Leisure Audio Books

Tuesday, July 1, 2008

Happy Canada Day

The last installment of the Healthy Self-Esteem Series will be posted tomorrow. Today is for relaxing and boosting my self-esteem. I'm doing this by enjoying the beautiful sunny day with other celebrating canadians. What are we celebrating - gratitude for this vast Canads, the opportunities she offers and her peaceful status.
Agapelife

Monday, June 30, 2008

Build, Boost and Mantain Self-Esteem

"If we did all the things we are capable of, we would literally astound ourselves".
Thomas Edison

A comment received from a blogging forum member stated that their self-esteem went down a few notches after moving to a new town. Another comments were that the level of self-esteem fluctuates and influenced by stress, successes, failures, relationships, bad days,challenges and so forth. All these are typical of self-esteem which cannot be taken for granted.

If we have a healthy self-esteem, we have to maintain it. If we don't, then we have to build it up. NASE - National Association for Self-Esteem was founded in 1986 with a mandate to fully integrate Self-Esteem into American Society. You can access them at
www.self-esteem-nase.org/

Build up your self-esteem
If you did a self-esteem test ( DiscoveryHealth or NASE has a simple one) and you have a score of 65 or 6.5, then the following suggestions would be beneficial.

1.Basic nurturing which include grooming, proper nutrition, exercise and adequate sleep.

2.Plan fun and relaxing activities for yourself.

3.Reward yourself for every little success and even if you feel you don't deserve it.

4.Forgive yourself for any mistakes,foil-ups,weakness and vulnerabilities.

When you begin to do the 4 suggestions above, you might feel you are worthy - well this is the time to put this principle into action - "Fake it till you make it"

5. Proper support from friends,i.e. tell them to let you vent without trying to fix your problem.

6. Use positive affirmations at least hourly. Have one line affirmations posted in the bedroom, so it is the first thing you see upon waking, and in the bathroom, kitchen, study, by your computer and anywhere you spend much of your time.


7.If you can't do any of the above as yet, then book an appointment with an appropriate therapist - NASE might give you some suggestions on that.

Boosting Self-Esteem

1. Use positive affirmations

2. Associate with positive, supportive friends.

3. Make a list of your past successes and place it where you can see it often.

4. Daily meditation.

5. Rebut your inner critic! Remember, Edison, Marconi,Bell, Wright Brothers, all had people who criticized and ridiculed them. Yet if any of those inventors had listened to their inner critic, we will not be enjoying now, what at that time seemed impossible!

You have to control or manage that inner voice that casts doubt, ridicule and belittles you. Believe me that is the most challenging part- you have to work at it daily, relentlessly and one day, you will find your inner voice cheering you on!

These are just some of the ways to build, boost and maintain your self-esteem. For more elaboration, please contact me for a private one to one support or coaching.
Tomorrow we will conclude this series.
Agapelife

Saturday, June 28, 2008

Did you not know?

A 3 year old, French speaking girl visits her mother in the maternity ward. She observes her mother speaking to the expectant mother in the next bed in English.

The little girl looks very thoughtful and quiet,looking intently at the other lady's belly and her mother asked her in french "What's wrong?"

She questions her mother, very seriously, "Mamma, our baby will be born speaking French, right?... that lady's baby will be born speaking English, right?

Her mother asks, 'Sure, why do you ask that?" The little girl looked relieved, "Well, mamma, if our baby speaks English, I won't be able to talk to her."

Friday, June 27, 2008

Effects of Low Self-Esteem on Health

One of the greatest disease is to be a nobody to anybody” Mother Teresa of Calcutta

All my years, in the education and health occupations and in my various volunteer assignments, I have found the effects of low self- esteem present in many victims of physical disabilities or disease and sometimes, it could be the residue of the disease or disability.
Low self-esteem as it spirals downward can lead to depression , paranoia, anorexia, bulimia.

Socially, low self-esteem alienates people, causes friction, jealousies, conflicts, and in extreme cases to violence. The common cry of persons with low self-esteem is “I’m not good enough .... ”. "I don't deserve this.."

There are several ways that lack of self-esteem is exhibited and here are three of them.- 1.Some people disguise their lack of self-esteem by outwardly showing confidence but inwardly terrified of failure, so this group will tend to be perfect or be workaholic in their daily lives and always looking for a pat on the back.

2. Some people act as if they are not bothered by others' opinions or judgements, yet
inwardly, they are angry and hurt which translates into sarcastic jokes, blaming and overly critical attitudes.

3. These group show themselves as helpless, unable to cope, indulge in self-pity and relying totally on someone else for physical, emotional and psychological support.


If we can nurture good self-esteem in children, then we have already won part of the battle. There is an audiobook on "Self-Esteem Building for kids" Adults can change their low self-esteem and there are programs to do that. They are offered through churches, education and health departments and online. There audiobooks like the one below.



Someone who has a healthy self-esteem is not overly troubled by ratings, rejections or criticism of self or his or her work.
Next week, we will briefly explore how to recover or build-up your self-esteem.

Thursday, June 26, 2008

What Causes Poor Self-Esteem

Causes of Low Self-Esteem

The causes of low self-esteem are as many as there are individuals. It begins in the mother’s womb. Gestational studies have shown that human foetuses react to music, sounds and vibrations while in the womb. Negative vibrations of the mother is felt and owned by these growing babies.

If the birth is difficult or if the labour is prolonged, if the baby is abandoned after birth, it affects that individual’s self-esteem. To illustrate, a recent article from a professional counselor, who had achieved success in relationships and career always felt his self-esteem was low as he did not feel he belonged.

He felt that the reason for that was he was an adopted child (he was not told he was adopted) when he finally had the courage to ask his mother, she stated he was adopted as a baby. He realized then that his issues with self-esteem stemmed from that.


How parents treat a child in the early years with words, attitudes and gestures play an important part in the self-esteem arena.
The school age child’s self-esteem formation continues with the teachers and other students. Is he/she bullied? Were there positive or negative reinforcements? Does the child go to church or Sunday school? Was that a positive experience?

If the general atmosphere of home and school is positive, with constructive criticism as well as praise for the child’s achievements, the child will develop a good level of self-esteem.

Bullying, excessive teasing, harsh criticism of the child’s failures or character flaws will create self-esteem issues. Does the child accomplishes each stage of psychologist Erik Erikson’s Developmental Stages successfully? These stages cover the whole spectrum of one’s life.

Other factors that contribute to low self-esteem are abuse, addictions, perceived or actual rejection by peers, job loss, separation, divorce, business as well as relationship failures and chronic illnesses. Society in general play a role in forming one’s self-esteem. Sometimes, "humor" is used to ridicule another person and shred their self-esteem! Some personalities are more prone to have their self-esteem eroded as they are extremely sensitive.

Tomorrow we will look at the effects of poor self-esteem.
Agapelife

Wednesday, June 25, 2008

How Important is Self-Esteem?

Importance of Self-Esteem

Anyone who thinks Self-Esteem is not important should Google it. There are many sites on all aspects of self-esteem from questionnaires to programs on Self-Esteem. Even the US Department of Mental Health has pages on it. It is under the domain of mental health. It is vital for mental health to have a good dose of self-esteem.

Self- Esteem in the dictionaries give the following definitions - “belief in oneself“,” undue pride in oneself” (Webster) ;“good opinion of oneself” (Oxford)


Maslow, a humanistic psychologist in his book, Motivation and Personality wrote about the hierarchy of human needs and the pyramid structure of the needs with the physiological needs from the base, followed by security needs, then social needs, then Self-Esteem needs and at the pinnacle needs of self-actualization. So Esteem needs are near the top of the needs of every human person.

Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, is studied not only in psychology but also in education and nursing and other health disciplines. So is anyone born with low or high self-esteem? How is self-esteem formed?
It is formed through experiences - both positive and negative experiences; also formed by interactions with others.

When is self-esteem formed? It starts when we are born and it continues to adulthood. Some studies will state that it starts in the womb, as a baby in the mother’s womb resonates with the mother’s vibrations - loving vibrations, positive or negative ones as well.

Is it a learned behaviour? Is it evolving? Can a low self-esteem be changed? The answer to all these questions is Yes, Yes and again Yes. How can I be so certain? Well, I was among those with a low self-esteem and with some conscious effort, prayer and work, my self-esteem has risen to a positive one.

The dilemma of Self-Esteem is that we could have too much of it or too little and being at either end of the spectrum is unbalanced. The causes and effects of low self-esteem as well as recovering from them will be discussed in my next postings.

Why is Self- Esteem important? It is part of a healthy, wholesome person. Persons with a healthy dose of self-esteem have the ability to be joyful, hopeful, creative, set goals, achieve some of them and contribute to humanity in some way, unique to them.



Tomorrow we will visit the causes of poor self-esteem!
Agapelife

Tuesday, June 24, 2008

All you want to know about Self-esteem!

After viewing some blog forums as well as my observations of people in my surroundings and in my practice, I have realized that poor Self-Esteem has been the cause of much needless suffering to people with unhealthy self-esteem.

A person can be outwardly, attractive or talented or intelligent, wealthy or in a great profession, yet surprise! surprise, the person can be inwardly troubled by self-esteem issues. Why?

In the next days, we will explore the causes of poor self-esteem! How does poor self-esteem affect the victim and those close to them? How to develop a healthy self-esteem?

If you have any comments or wish to share experiences or feel you have a poor self-esteem, I would like to hear from you!
Agapelife

Monday, June 23, 2008

Qigong-Synopsis

So for the past week, Qigong, Chow qigong in particular has been the topic. This is a synopsis of what was posted for the past 7 days.

Qigong, a traditional Chinese healing method practised since 300BC, has found a home in the West, introduced by Dr. E. Chow, a public health nurse, PhD and a qigong master.
She has blended some western medicine with eastern medicine. She founded the East-West Academy of Healing Arts in San Francisco. She has a research-based practice of qigong.

Qigong research done within the last 20 years have shown amazing healing of diseases such as cancer, cerebral palsy, multiple sclerosis, fibromyalgia, arthritis, Parkinson's and mental illnesses. Qigong techniques and exercises builds up the immune system, so colds and infections are reduced. It has also decreased stress!

Chow qigong promotes concepts that is congruent to qigong - meditation,positive attitude, giving and receiving love, humor, peace with oneself and others.

Qigong is now used also to prevent against diseases. It has shown remarkable results in chronic illnesses where western medicine has yet to produce effective results.

Qigong literally means "vital breath" or "vital energy". The base of any qigong system (and there are a number of systems,) is the proper breathing technique and correct posture. Then come the exercises, first the preliminary, the warm-ups and the treasure 8 exercises that should be done at least daily. Dr Chow stated that if qi without love is empty.

I have been practising Chow qigong techniques with two other techniques and I have seen remarkable healing with my energy improved and pain non-existent. So, I am now on a mission to show those who are in any chronic illnesses and pain-ridden, there is a way out. If someone who had frozen shoulder, painful, immobile knees,sinusitis and cancer is now Mobile, active and pain-free through qigong and GET, then you could be too.
If you have any comments or questions, please send them to me.
Be healthy,joyful and peaceful
Agapelife

Friday, June 20, 2008

Qigong:-Miracle Healing!

According to Dr.McGee MD who co-wrote the book QIGONG with Dr. Chow, he stated that many western scientific groups are reluctant to accept qigong for the following reasons.
1. NIH syndrome - not invented here as it originated from China.
2."Quality of the studies according to a Western biomedical model"
3." Some of the results of Qigong violate current concepts in physics and medicine".

In 1985, Dr. chow participated in a 6 month study in a nursing home in Seattle,Washington. She trained key staff in the Chow qigong concept and exercises.

A significant part of the program was the treatment of 5 patients. The patients suffered from the following - 1. Two Patients with Parkinson's, one had it for 10 years with severe pain and immobility and affected speech.

2.Patient with herpes zoster of rib cage addicted to methadone and could only stay in a fetal position.

3. Patient with severe Rheumatoid arthritis who had not walke for 2 - 3 years.

4 Patient with Alzheimer's, who was hostile, agitated and wandered out of facility and was given large doses of sedatives.

After one hour of treatment of Dr. Chow's, pain was reduced significantly, speech improved, normal posture returned, mobility regained, and dramatic improvement in the behavior of the patient with Alzheimer's.

Dr. Chow's qigong and other therapies have helped many people in America and Canada.
People who had Cerebral Palsy, Diabetes, osteoporosis, paranoid schizophrenia, MS, Dementia, aphasia to name a few, have seen dramatic results after treatment by Dr. Chow.

I, myself, have experienced remarkable recovery after trying Chow qigong. Next week, on Monday, we will conclude this series on Qigong.
I would like to know how you are doing with your 3 hearty laughs daily and the 8 hugs?
Agapelife

References; McGee,Charles T. MD, Chow, Effie Poy Yew, Ph.D - QIGONG - Miracle Healing from China, Medipress,1996

Thursday, June 19, 2008

Qigong:-Is Qigong scientific?

Qigong Research
In 1988, the first world conference of academic exchange of medical qigong was held in Beijing.

A wide range of experiments and clinical trials was presented.
Here are just a small sample of the findings or results of these trials, some were done in the course of 20 years.

1.Cancer cells in the stomach (25%) after exposed to qi treatment for an hour was eradicated. 31% of uterine/cervical cancer cells, treated with emitted qi were de-activated.

2. 204 patients with high blood pressure who practised qigong had their blood pressure lowered.

3. 43 patients with with paralysis, who were wheel-chair bound. After treatment with Qigong, they could walk with the assistance of a walker or cane.

4. Patients with tinnitus (ringing in the ears) who had not responded to western medicine or TCM _54% regain normal hearing.

5.Alzheimer's - A man whose CAT scan showed brain atrophy (shrinking), and showing some symptoms of Alzheimer's, after a year of self-practise of qigong as well as treatment of emitted qi, returned to normal and the follow up CAT scan showed a normal brain.

6. Patients who were impotent, also were healed after qi treatments.

As I mentioned, these are just a few of the results of clinical studies done. Tomorrow, we will see what Dr Chow, RN PHD, has done with her own research in an American Nursing Home.
Agapelife

Wednesday, June 18, 2008

Qigong Healer

Dr.E. Chow, born in China, lived her childhood and young adult life in British Columbia, Canada. She saw traditional Chinese medicine (TCM) practiced in the Chinese community but it was open to ridicule in the western culture that surrounded her. She went on to train as a registered nurse and became a public health nurse.

Soon, she discovered gaps in western medicine that took a tragic outcome in her own father. So she began studying under Qigong masters in Taiwan,Hong Kong and Canada. As she began her studies, her teachers noted she had a healing touch.

She spent 30 years, working to integrate TCM into western medicine and for that purpose founded the East West Academy of Healing Arts in 1973 and in 1988 a branch of EastWest Academy was founded with Dr. Kenneth Sancier, called the Qigong Institute.

Dr Chow has been a consultant with the Dept. of Health and Human Services as well as in NIH (National Institutes of health)She is also in the Advisory panel of several Boards on Alternative and Complementary Medicine. There is so much more to say about this very energetic, inspiring lady.

I will be leaving resources on Friday's post.

Tuesday, June 17, 2008

Qigong Exercises - briefly

According to Dr. Chow,in her practice of qigong, she found that it was not wise for one to practice the exercises without also practising the philosophies and supportive measures which I mentioned in yesterday's post.

Before one starts the Qigong exercises, these basic steps or preliminary exercises should be mastered.
1. Proper Posture 2. Diaphragmatic breathing 3.Activate Qi in laogong point,
4. Sensing Qi 5. Standing at the stake.

It will take some practice and as my former qigong instructor told us - if we only learned how to breathe properly, it would help us greatly and she was right. The first two did alot to improve my energy and health. I noticed at the beginning, due to my weakened condition when I started these exercises, the 5 preliminary exercises were what I could do for a couple of weeks and then, I noticed a surge in energy levels, and I continued with the warm-up and the rest.

The Dr.Chow has 5 warm-up exercises, followed by the treasure 8 exercises.
You have to give your body time to adjust to this energy. When you feel the effects of the exercises is different for each individual. Some people will feel energize right away, others in a few days,others in a few weeks or so. As you continue with the exercises, you will see your energy and health improve.

It is also wise to follow these exercises with someone who has trained under a qigong master so that you do the right techniques.

There are many qigong exercises as different qigong systems, have their special exercises. Chow qigong is a medical-based qigong. Tomorrow we will find out the background of this qigong master, Effie Chow.
Agapelife

Monday, June 16, 2008

Qigong:-Concepts of Chow Qigong

According to Dr. Chow, Love is the most important element that envelopes Chow Qigong.
As she puts it "without love, life qi is empty" Some of the basic concepts of Chow Qigong includes the following:-

A positive mental attitude.
Proper posture and breathing with diaphragm (not chest)
Meditate daily.
Get 8 hugs a day and 3 belly-aching laughs a day.
Practice the right qigong exercises.
Good nutrition
Be at peace with yourself and others
Give and receive lots of love.

Integrating the qi concept into one's life is important to get the maximum benefit of Qigong.
Tomorrow we will briefly mention some of the qigong exercises.
Agapelife

Saturday, June 14, 2008

Happy Father's Day

Two small boys, not yet old enough to be in school, were overheard talking at the zoo one day.

"My name is Billy. What's yours?" asked the first boy.

"Tommy," replied the second.

"My Daddy's an accountant. What does your Daddy do for a living?" asked Billy.

Tommy replied, "My Daddy's a lawyer."

"Honest?" asked Billy.

"No, just the regular kind", replied Tommy.

From Stress,Humor and Health.

Friday, June 13, 2008

Qigong:-Mystery of Qigong

Today's post will be brief due to technical challenges encountered!

There have been much misconception of Qigong, especially medical Qigong. Qigong enhances and uses energy that is already within us to bring us to wholesome health,physical,mental and spiritual.

It is cost-effective. Unlike biofeedback, there are no technical devices. The only investment you need is time - and what a payback you receive in return! It is not advisable to change to different systems of Qigong from one to another!

Will continue on Monday! Your questions, comments are sharing will be most appreciated!
Agapelife

Thursday, June 12, 2008

Qigong - What research proved

While western medicine had succeeded in treating critical illnesses, eastern medicine with Qigong as a main example has had great success in chronic, degenerative, addictive behaviors and stress related conditions.


Recent Research has shown that healing occurred in the following body systems
1. Cardiovascular 2. Respiratory, 3. Immune system, 4. Circulatory system, 5. Musculoskeletal 6. Digestive,7 Endocrine,(Diabetes) 8.Neurological, 8. Skin, 10.Eyes
Asthma and allergies have also been cured by the practice of Qigong!

So what exactly is Qigong. It is an ancient Chinese system of health. There are many types of Qigong systems as there qigong masters.

Is it an exercise?
Is it a technique?
Is it a behavior?
Is it a certain nutrition?
Is it a positive mind-set?
Is it relaxation?
Is it meditation?
Is it healing?
Yes it is all of the above and more - it is actually a harmonious, healthy, empowering way of life!

Chow Qigong is a medical Qigong and it is unique as the grandmaster Dr. Chow blended eastern with western medicine in her practice of Qigong.
There is so much to know about Qigong and these postings will only show you a small picture of Qigong which has had a healthy impact on my life and countless others.

Tomorrow we will continue with what are the tools involved with Qigong? Your comments will be most welcomed!
Agapelife

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