Thursday, July 15, 2010

Your Request to your Higher Self? - Step 4 & 5

Are  you seated? Good - Now take your large sheet of paper or exercise book and write this formula
   Dear Higher Self,
I ask forgiveness for...........................................(specify one behavior or faulty belief or faulty thought which trouble you and for which you are seeking forgiveness.) (Dr. Guy Pettitt)
The above formula will be repeated for each behavior or belief, ah.... you were trying to squeeze 3 or 4 in one line - no need for that - use several sheets of paper as necessary.Leave several blank spaces between each item you're asking forgiveness for.

Oh are you having trouble seeing the less obvious areas for self-forgiveness.. These posts do not allow me to elaborate in detail as I would if I was coaching or guiding you individually or if you were in a small unbiased group setting. The less obvious might be - 1.overachieving, overambitious, (& the opposites),2. spending more money on your material possessions than on your own self-improvement, 3. putting expectations on others, 4. believing others as untrustworthy because of a past experience of others betraying your trust....etc.... REMEMBER ask and answer the questions, Compassionately, Joyfully and Completely. If this section is not done thoroughly, the forgiveness will be only partial..... so check,recheck, and recheck.

Take several days to do this as each day might bring something you forgot the day before. Recheck this big offenders. 1.Did I criticize myself and /or others? 2.Did I sabotage myself and/or others? 3.Did I addict myself and/or others? 4. Did I confuse myself and/or others?5. Did I play the clown to avoid important issues?6. Did I play the Helpless Victim, reluctant Martyr or resentful helper? 7. Did I depress myself for doing any of the above?

Step 5 is where you left the blank space. Return to each item to be forgiven and chose a wise preference with this formula. Do not use vague or negative words. When finished writing, say them loudly.

" As I look back, I realize I would have preferred to have.......(believe) or (thought) or (said) or (acted) Choose the one that applies. Here is an example.
 .....I would have preferred to believe that I was a worthwhile person. ( instead of being so self-critical of my background.)
 Please do this exercise sitting down - I will tell you why in the next post, where we will talk about the sixth step which concludes the Early Phase of Forgiveness! If you're still with me, please let me know! I would like to know how many are following these posts, otherwise the middle and very important part of the forgiveness process will be postponed indefinitely. So a line or two is crucial to the survival of this blog.
P Nicholas



Nathan said...

Well you know I am still here and following very closely, however, these steps are really making me think.

I think I am having a tough time accepting the truth. I feel like I need to keep tricking myself into thinking that I don't need to ask for forgiveness for something since it doesn't bother me. Yet, I know deep down that I need to forgive myself for several things. I think my big one for me is being the clown to avoid serious issues. I am not sure if I ever would have thought of that one so thank you.

Keep up the great work as you are definitely helping me on my way to being free and happy.

healy said...

you know what I always give my forgiveness to anybody who commit mistakes and sabotage me. I dont know why it is on my part to give way eventhough it really hurts. Coz for me, it feels light and free when your out of the dark and seing this persons again, smiling. On my part hatred is nothing. I just offer my thoughts to the Lord and Im glad to see the wisdom of it.

Agapelife said...

Yes Nathan, some of the biggies are not usually associated with the sub-personalities. Actually, the sub-personality can try and mimic the Higher Self? Do you know how you can find out if it is the sub-personality?

Agapelife said...

Thanks for your comment Healy. Yes we forgive others for sabotaging us, but what if we sabotage ourselves, do we forgive ourselves????

Agapelife said...

Thanks Healy, forgiveness does make you light and free. You mentioned how you forgive others for sabotaging you. Do you forgive yourself for sabotaging you?? That is what this series is about!

Nathan said...

Hi Agapelife,

That is a great question, "Do you know how to find out if it is the sub-personality"?

I have asked myself this question many times and I often get confused when I try to logically figure it out. So far, all I have been able to determine is my first reaction to something is usually my sub-personality. This isn't really all that helpful. Do you have a place where I can find out how to determine if it is my higher self or my sub-personality? This would be incredibly usefult to know!