Thursday, June 24, 2010
Steps of the Self-Forgiveness Ladder -2
Well, why don't we do some housecleaning now - no need for a vacuum...... I meant mental housecleaning. That is what Step 2 is about. There are 2 parts. On a whole page draw two vertical columns. On the first, rank the values that you've written, from the most important to the least, leaving a few lines of space between each value. On the second column for each value, you will write a value statement. Here are some examples and each statement should have the words that are capitalized.
Values (Core at the top) Value Statement
Dignity I VALUE feeling
dignified MORE THAN
feeling worthless, Freedom I VALUE freedom
MORE THAN feeling a
my own negativity.
After you have written ALL the Value Statements, then read them aloud as many times as you wish and let them sink in. Running out of writing material. I did warn you that you will need full standard size exercise books. Again use 2 columns and mention all the benefits and burdens.
Part 2 of Step 2
Benefits of Forgiving Myself
Benefits of Forgiving myself
When I forgive myself of holding
on to resentment, my head is clear, I digest my food better.
Burdens of not forgiving Myself
When I hold on to unforgiveness, my headaches do not go away, I have problems with digestion.
If this not self-explanatory, then write to me. List all the benefits and burdens, no matter how insignificant they may seem. Then read them aloud, weighing the benefits against the burdens. Take all the time you need to reflect on your Value Statements, the benefits and the burdens. As you read the Benefits and Burdens aloud, check your body's reaction. Do you feel your body relax when you read the Benefits? Is the body tensing when you read the Burdens. Which part of the body is reacting more than the others? Jot them down.