Thursday, July 1, 2010

Steps of the Forgiveness Process - 3

Do you want to venture a guess on what the 3rd step is? Suembela, left a comment about not being sure she could do the process with Joy! Well the 3rd Step is Setting the Goal and the Attitude in pursuing it. Believe it or not, Attitudes do affect  the  Outcome.

What are your goals? Freedom from Painful memories or Freedom from physical pain or Ability to love again, or to have creativity, etc. Did you notice I did not use any negative words like not, do not... etc. Goals should be specific and measurable.

What Attitude should you go with? This is dependent on the Goal you have chosen. Generally - if you chose to have fun with the Forgiveness Process, or see it as discovering answers, then you Will. Whereas, if you chose to find it problematic,  a chore, a sad process, then you Will. I'm hoping you will not chose the latter if you want to succeed in this Process. To illustrate, you're going from Jacksonville, Fl to St. Augustine Fl. you have a choice of taking a scenic route along the ocean or through the highway with a view of cars and concrete. The former might take a little longer but your drive is enjoyable! So Decide now what Attitude you're going with and stick to it.

Any questions so far?
P Nicholas


Maris said...

I can't agree with you more about the need for the right attitude if we are to succeed with the process of forgiveness. Hard as it is, it really boils down to our choice. And for me, there really is no other choice but to be optimistic about it.

Pamela Wilson-Lipscomb said...

Forgiveness is sometimes hard to achieve, especially when you are the one who needs forgiving. Great subject!

Agapelife said...

Thanks Pamela for your comment. Our posts now has self-forgiveness as its focus. Yes, usually the one who needs forgiving should also accept forgiveness with compassion, joyfully and completely. Usually, it is our sub-personality that convinces us that we can't be forgiven.

Jupiter Chiropractor, Palm Beach said...

Forgiveness is hard especially if your really hurt but try to forgive and forget, and you will feel more free and relax.

Agapelife said...

Thanks Jupiter for your comment. The first part of the Forgiveness Process was a post of the Myths and hard to forgive is a Myth. If you follow the Process, Dr. Pettitt, stated it is not hard to forgive, no matter what the hurt. I think also practice with the Process makes it easier!